Hi lovely readers,
Today’s post is going to be about how, after a bit of a slump or some chaos, you get your life together and feel like the boss girl you are. Sometimes things get off track, or impulses lead to chaos, and after these periods it’s great to have a plan and remain solution-focused.
Have a seat with a cup of coffee, maybe light a candle or turn on your diffuser, put your hair up in a ponytail, maybe put a face mask on and wear a comfy but cute outfit, and open your journal and planner.
The first step, for me, is to create a worry/ problems page in my journal, where I like to just jot down everything that’s causing me stress or frustration in my life that I haven’t been dealing with. It can be anything from “There are no groceries in my fridge” to “I’m falling behind in school” to “My room is a mess” or “I haven’t made plans with any of my friends in weeks”. Just let it all out. I find this to be a great relief when I feel overwhelmed and anxious.
The next step is to make a solutions page; number each of your worries and then on the solutions page, separate them by those numbers. Write down each step you’re going to take to fix this problem. For example, if it’s something like “I’m behind in school”, then the first step would be to log into your program’s courses page and check what assignments are remaining. The second would be to get your planner and schedule in when you can tackle those assignments, and make sure, if it’s possible on your get your sh*t together day, that you write in one of them or a portion of one for that day. The third would be to set up your study place. The fourth would be to get some water, a snack, maybe a cup of coffee. The fifth would be to actually start and get on that grind.
Anxiety accumulates and we can feel paralyzed, so breaking things down into manageable steps makes big tasks feel doable, and having it all written out makes it feel like you’re making a commitment to yourself. I also recommend putting check boxes next to each step so you can remind yourself you’ve accomplished something towards a goal and towards getting your life together and feel a sense of pride and mastery.
Even when your life feels pretty put together, most people have some anxieties and stressful situations looming over them. Making a worry page and taking a gentle but solution-oriented approach is a great way to conquer our fears and create simplified, more manageable lives.
Thanks so much for reading!
Lots of love,