Hi lovely readers,
Today I’m going to share my goals for this coming October. September has been a challenging month, mental-health wise, and I started school and piano again so I’ve been very busy. A lot of things have fallen by the wayside. So, I thought a good way to go into the fall would be to set some goals to keep me focused and on-track.
- I want to exercise, in some form, everyday for at least 30 minutes. 3 days a week, I want to do something more intensive, like a hatha class, kickboxing, or go to the gym, but on my days off I plan on walking or taking the ttc to the gym and just targeting a muscle group for half an hour. This is so helpful for my mental health and self-esteem, and really helps me avoid falling back into eating disordered patterns.
- I want to reduce my junk food consumption to twice a week. Lately I’ve been eating so many simple carbs, and so much fatty and cholesterol heavy food, like McDonalds, and I’ve noticed that not only does it make me gain weight and not increase my energy, but it also doesn’t keep me feeling full at all. I already know how to eat healthy, but I need reminders to be consistent with my eating and prepared so that I don’t become starving when I’m out somewhere and end up buying junk and wasting money on something that makes me feel bloated and sluggish.
- I want to get back into the habit of meditating. I used to love to meditate, because it reduced my anxiety and increased my ability to be mindful. I also used the calm app, which had meditations specifically for increasing self-acceptance and self-love, and those helped me a lot too. I need to regain the ability to slow life down for at least a few minutes a day, and get back in touch with my inner self, as cliche as that sounds. It is truly so important to overall happiness and focus.
- I want to minimize my life somewhat. I go through phases of not having enough in my life and of having too much, in every sense. Right now I’m in a ‘too much’ phase. My routines take too long, I have so much on my plate (for me anyway – I know there are busier people!), and I have a lot of both mental and physical clutter. I really want to figure out ways to simplify things, such as planning my outfits out the night before, reducing the number of items in my drawers so the planning isn’t so difficult, consistently cleaning as I go as opposed to having to do a big clean of my room everyday, etc. I also feel overcommitted right now and it’s leaving me with very little time to be reflective or social, so I’m going to try to figure out what I can stop doing, at least for the time being.
- I want to be a more reliable friend. I tend to disappear because of difficult phases in my mental health, mostly due to the fact that during those times I don’t feel worthy of close friendships. But that leaves the people closest to me feeling abandoned and confused. I want to find a healthy balance, in which I can see my friends at least bi-weekly and communicate via text or social media somewhat consistently, but also have enough space for my alone time and self-care. I’m thinking of having one or two times during the day in which I dedicate my energy to using my phone and to taking out my planner and making dates to see friends, and then really putting effort into keeping those dates.
- I want to recommit to my sobriety. For a long time, it was easy to stay sober. I have continued to do so, but lately it’s been a mental battle. I go to process groups during the week, but I am definitely missing the community aspect of meetings. As I just mentioned I’m stretched a little thin right now, but once I’ve narrowed down my commitments I’d really like to be able to go to one or two meetings a week again so I feel more engaged in my recovery again, to hopefully ease some of the discomfort I’ve been feeling.
- I want to be more vulnerable. I have a really hard time putting my feelings out there, whether it be in a simple conversation or when I’m trying to set boundaries or ask for help. I feel immense discomfort when I am being wholly vulnerable, and I plan to do more research into improving ones ability to open up freely and show your true emotions and beliefs. I want to use this vulnerability, to, seemingly ironically, be stronger in my relationships and in maintaining my own personal needs for boundaries. I spend so much time in fear of being told my feelings are wrong, or having them continue to be disrespected even if I do speak out, that I just never try. This coming month I am really hoping with my therapists help and with the help of some reading and watching TED talks, I can start to implement vulnerability appropriately into my life.
- I want to spice up my self-care. I have been doing the same self-care routines for months now, and they no longer feel special or particularly rewarding. I really need to add to and change my routines so that when I take my self-care hour, I feel refreshed and truly treated. I plan on doing this by adding watching a movie or TV show to my routine, some time without my phone, meditation as previously mentioned, maybe learning a new skill just for fun, going for reflective walks, and I’m hoping to find new ways to journal so that it goes back to truly feeling effectively freeing and emotional.
For now that’s all I can think of, but if I come up with more goals I’ll add them to this post! Thank you so much for reading and feel free to share your goals in the comments below, or any tips you have for completing the ones I’ve shared.
Lots of love,